Forgive Yourself to Forgive Others

Now, I am no perfect person. I think this is something that every person can say about themselves. But, what I can say is that I am great at using nice, flowery words and somehow with these words — I am able to shape anything I want to say — including apologies. One thing I want every person who reads this is to remember this: All of us have something that we don’t like to admit to the public; and for many, it is their errors. I am not a shameless person, and I am not about to admit every single error I have ever made, but I can only hope that the ones I have made are ones I – and others – can learn from. I have made many stupid mistakes in my life, including incredibly naive, but I don’t count this as a flaw in my character. However, what I do consider a huge error- is having patience. Patience is something I will generally expect from other people, but when it comes to me, I will not have it. BUT. In order for me to forgive other people in the future for their own faults, recall the following notion – forgive YOURSELF first. Humans are flawed creatures, not meant for perfection. We never call them perfect because there is no such thing as a ‘universal’ perfect human being. There is only OUR idea of perfect in a person — whether that be their ‘perfect’ clothes, ‘perfect’ lifestyle, ‘perfect’ character. In the end, we call all just call these the ‘best’, but not the ‘perfect’. So, in order to forgive yourself, you must first accept that you are not perfect. Perfect IS overrated, right? Next, believe that you can make your error into a good thing. A benefit, at least. If you are miserable from something bad you have done, then just do a bunch of good things to replace from this. (Believe me, it’s hard at first, but then you will at least believe you are a decent human being after a while). Simply look at yourself in the mirror at say, “I am not a bad person. I am a person that did something that was bad.” From this, you will be able to move on and (hopefully) forgive yourself. Your life will not end from your error; for, if you’re reading this, your life has probably just begun. Life is short, really short, and you never know when it might end. It might be tomorrow, or 2 weeks from now, or 10 years from now. I am not saying you should begin yelling ‘YOLO’! and party everyday, getting really drunk and just having crazy amounts of sex in your life span. I am saying, just for your own good, forgive what you did. Forgiving the things you have done, will help you to forgive another person. If you were able to forgive your own self for a million things, why wouldn’t you be able to forgive someone else for a million things, too?

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